With online dating rampant, finding your true love may seem as simple as scrolling through promising profiles and arranging for meet-ups.
If nothing else, in the universe is random, as many people believe that the internet may indeed be an effective way of meeting your soul mate.
But the question is: how do you know if you’re choosing your soul mate — or just someone who has a cute online smile?
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Calling on Cupid to Find Love
The new TV show Cupid makes it look so easy — you meet, you greet, Cupid pulls a few strings and voila — true love! The bead moves.
But the reality is, finding a lasting relationship is a challenge. In fact, divorce rates hover at close to 50 percent for first marriages according to a study by Rutgers University’s 2007 The State of Our Union report.
And the statistics get worse with subsequent marriages, the study shows.
What’s a Soul Mate?
Most people think of a soul mate as a person with whom you’re “made for,” or a person with whom you’ve shared multiple past lives and have a karmic contract with — a person who keeps reappearing in each life, as a romantic partner to you.
But according to Michael Newton, Ph.D., past lives regression expert and author of Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls, there’s more to it. In his book Life Between Lives, his research showed that subjects under regression often meet what he calls their “primary soulmate.”
According to Newton, this may be a person who is currently living, such as your spouse, partner, boyfriend or girlfriend — someone you’re already in a romantic relationship with, or destined to be with.
But here’s the clincher: your “primary soulmate” may not be a romantic figure. He or she may just as easily step forward as your mother, brother, best friend and so forth.
This has many thinking, “Yikes! My ‘primary soulmate’ could be my mother?!” And indeed, that doesn’t leave much room for that cute online someone with great dimples, does it?
Primary Might Not Mean Romantic
In other words, a person’s “primarily soulmate” may not be the person you are currently living with right now on earth — till death do you part, in sickness and health, and so forth.
Newton notes that subjects who discover they are not currently in relationship with their “primary soulmate” can be, at best, disappointed — and at worst, devastated. Not everyone is destined, his research seems to suggest, to meet our true love during our time on this earth.
Outside of past life regression, how will know if you’re with your soul mate? The old pickup line, “Haven’t we met before?” won’t help you out.
That’s because you may recognize of all kinds of souls from your past lives — but instead of a “primary soulmate,” you may instead recognize a soul with whom you share a karmic contract to learn a specific life lesson.
For best results, most people can combine the Cupid-style approach of dating who you’re attracted to online or in person, while keeping Newton’s research in mind — and hoping you’ve found your “primary soulmate” at the same time.
Past Life Regression May Reveal Your True Love
Your eyes met, your gazes locked, and it’s been champagne and roses ever since.
Or not.
With divorce rates hovering at close to 50 percent for first marriages according to a study by Rutgers University’s 2007 The State of Our Union report, it’s easy to see that finding your true love—let alone staying with him or her through the proverbial “till death do us part”—is not the most simple task in modern society.
The question begs: how do you know if the person you’re with is your soul mate?
What is a Soul Mate?
The modern idea of soul mate might be loosely defined as a person with whom you’ve shared multiple past lives and have a karmic contract with—a person who keeps reappearing in each progressive life as a romantic partner to you.
According to Michael Newton, Ph.D., past lives regression expert and author of bestselling Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls, the idea of soul mate goes even further. In his book Life Between Lives, he found that subjects under regression often meet who he calls their “primary soulmate.”
This may be a person who is currently alive, such as the subject’s spouse or partner (Newton notes that because spirit energy is always held in the spirit world, it’s possible to be with a person on earth now, and at the same time meet this person in the spiritual realm.)
Are You with Your “Primary Soulmate”?
But here’s the clincher: your “primary soulmate” may not be a romantic figure. In fact, this person may just as easily step forward as your mother, brother, best friend, boss—you name it.
In other words, your “primarily soulmate” may not be the person that you are currently living with right now on earth—the one you’re raising kids, paying a mortgage and buying groceries with, standing by in sickness and health, and so forth. In fact, you may not have even met your “primary soulmate” in this lifetime.
Newton notes that subjects who discover they are not currently in relationship with their “primary soulmate” can be at best disappointed—and at worst, devastated. Not all of us are destined, his research seems to suggest, to meet our true love, or what the 13th century mystic poet Jelaluddin Rumi termed the “Beloved,” in this lifetime.
How to Recognize People from Past Lives
Outside of past life regression, how will know if you’ve met your soul mate, our just another soul on the path? That old pickup line “haven’t we met before?” won’t help much. That’s because you may experience instant recognition of all kinds of souls that you encountered in your past lives—but instead of a “primary soulmate,” you may instead recognize a soul with whom you share a karmic contract to learn a specific life lesson.
As most spiritual leaders will agree, life lessons are not always pleasant or easy to learn.
A therapist trained in past life regression may be able to help you discover more.
Until then, on this Valentine’s Day, whether you’re with your “primary soulmate” or not, perhaps the best advice is simply to download Stephen Stills’ classic rock song “Love the One You’re With” and take a listen. Love, in all guises, whether “primary soulmate” or not, may be the greatest soul lesson of all.
